Marriage… I’m not going to try to define what the word actually means because I’m sure every married couple has a definition of what ‘their’ marriage means to them. One thing I can say is that, it is actually harder than all the fairy tales and fantasies I imagined it to be. Personally, I compare my marriage to life in general… Ups, downs and inbetweens. The moments of pure joy, I believe depend on the kind of individual you are. Do you let things easily get to you, ignore them or find the positive in them ( I have profound respect for positive people.) Your attitude I believe holds the key to your marriage.
Marriage is one of those situations where (at least in my culture), the unmarried envy the married, while the married sometimes wish they had the courage to just leave. We hear advises like, “marry a God-fearing man, if he loves the Lord, he will treat you right.” Well, there have been cases where a God-fearing partner abuses (both physically and mentally) the other and the next moment gets on their knees and asks the Lord for forgiveness. Basically what I am saying is just like the future, you never know what your partner is capable of.
Yet am I tempted to compare my marriage to others, of course I am. You sometimes see couples who ‘outwardly’, yes the key word being ‘outwardly’ appear to be the perfect marriage model and you dream of having a marriage like theirs. But is that marriage truly all it seems? There’s a saying in our culture, ” in marriage, the roof covers it all.”
Personally, apart from the love I have for my husband, one of the things that keeps me working at our marriage is the way he treats me and loves our babies. Is he perfect…far from it. Does he get on my nerves…you bet he does.Do I love being married? You bet I do!
I can’t wait to watch the video below, to get an insight into the journey that successful marriages have taken. Take a look and see if any of the topics resonate with you.
WHAT’S YOUR TAKE?